
(6-13-19) When her adult son developed a mental illness, Faith Tibbetts McDonald blamed herself. What had she done wrong? Could she have prevented his illness? I asked her to write about how she eventually worked through the blame game and what she learned.
Beyond blame, My personal struggle and resolution
By Faith Tibbetts McDonald.
I was in the grocery store when I bumped into a friend whose daughter was in the hospital being treated for a mental health crisis. I asked how things were going.
Not well. Her teenage daughter hadn’t improved from when she was admitted a week earlier.
“Don’t blame yourself,” I said.
My friend burst into tears. Instinctively, I reached out and brushed one of her tears away.
“Don’t blame your husband, either.”
More tears. I fished in my pocket for a tissue.
“How did you know?” she asked.
How did I know?
Because I have lived in that same space. I’d been where she now was.







